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What is your definition of ‘motherhood?’

Kristy's Corner with Kristy Brown

The word “Mother” is defined as a noun - a female in relation to their offspring, having given birth to. As a verb – an extreme of something “The mother of all traffic jams” or also the act of mothering such as, “She felt mothered by her sister.”

Through the many adventures I’ve had in my life I have met so many incredible people. Many of whom I would describe as motherly. Many of those I have referred to as mom. Those women in my life, who have been there, have shown love and support or even just laughed and tolerated my silliness over the years have always held a place in my heart as a mother figure and even if it has been years since we’ve enjoyed time together, that feeling will never ever fade. I hope you all know how much you mean to me.

To the women who hug a child when they’re sad or hurt.

Who bring over a casserole or chocolate just because.

Who sit through school plays or concerts to watch a child for 5 minutes.

Who have sat on 1” of bed to calm a scared child from a nightmare or bad thoughts.

Who have gotten up in the middle of the night to wash bedding and clothing and a child from sickness.

Who have fallen asleep reading a story at bedtime.

Who have driven a child to a mall even though they really didn’t want to so they can buy the latest thing.

Who have given their food for a child to eat and gone without.

Who have given up everything just so their child could have something.

Who have argued and fought for a child’s sake and not given up.

Who have microwaved coffee multiple times and ended up drinking it cold because they’re busy chasing children.

Who have made up stories on the spot because a child wants ‘just one more’.

Who have created new voices for stories they didn’t know they had the ability to.

Who have sat on the couch watching a children’s show while children were asleep.

Who have gone 4, 5 or 7 days without a proper shower because they are sleep deprived, busy and not sure what day it is.

Who have held back tears with a lump in their throat while a child cries over a pet or person that has passed.

Who have been brave for a child who is hurt.

Who have prayed for a child’s safety, health and love.

Who have sat for hours staring at a baby sleeping.

Who have been heartbroken for a child.

Who have pretended to be ok and put on a brave face for a child.

Who have kissed fingers, toes, noses and tears of a child.

Giving birth to a child does not make a person a mother. Being a mother is so much more than carrying a child in your womb. I have been very blessed in my life to have a biological mother, a step-mother and other mother figures in my life. These women make me who I am, they influenced my decisions in my life and made me into the mother that I am today for my children and the figure I am for many others.

Happy Mother’s Day to all of the amazing women out there doing everything they can to raise good people. You are doing a great job, you deserve all of the love you receive and make sure you take the time for you because we cannot drink from an empty cup.

I am a very lucky woman. I have a birth mother who I have been with from Day 1. She and I have been through all of the things our lives have thrown at us together, we have moved to another country, unknown territory. We have battled issues, we have had moments apart only to come back together stronger than before. We have this invisible string, a line that connects us and forever will connect us no matter where we are. I am her, she is me. She is an amazing woman who has endured so much in her life and continues to remain a pillar of strength and influence for my siblings and I and our children.

I also have a step-mother who has been with me since I was young. Although growing up we didn’t spend much time together, it wasn’t until my early teens that I actually really got to know her. I’ve watched her maintain a household while my father worked in other cities in North America. She’s always been supportive of my choices (whether she agrees with them or not!) Always loving and giving whatever she can to make us happy, comfortable and our bellies full with delicious food! She’s been there when life is hard, with hugs and an ear. She has been there to share excitement and happy tears when great moments happen.

If you have a woman in your life who has been like a mother to you, celebrate her. Let her know how much she means to you. As mothers we give a lot without expecting anything in return. We sacrifice, we comfort and celebrate, giving all of our energy to our children and children-like people. Be sure to take time to call your mother. She needs it once in a while.

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